Monday, December 8, 2008

Ezine Question Corner

We had an enormous response to the Question Corner segment of the ezine last month. So large we cannot post all of the Q & A's in the ezine. So we will be including some of them in upcoming blogs. This is the first - with questions on bullying. For Dave's answer scroll down.

Hi, David
I really appreciate the succinct information about bullying.
However, what I really need are strategies for penetrating
the lack of empathy that seems to grow in students who
get away with bullying

PS. What do you do when you work with someone in the
mental health field who is a bully? Her needs tend to get
met at the expense of everyone else, but no one seems
to recognize it as bullying.
(Subscriber in the USA)

Hi ....
You have keyed in on an essential element of bullying ie. the inability to emotionally connect, in a mutual beneficial way, with others.
Bullying to a very large degree is due to a lack of emotional wellness. A motivating force for bullying is to secure or maintain a sense of emotional survival. Students and adults alike who feel personally unworthy, unattached, frustrated by lack of success, fear of risking to succeed etc are all likely to be a bully in one form or another.
In book The Bully Around the Corner I probably spend 75% of content dealing the emotional aspects of bullying and strategies to enhance emotional change. Then in the past six months I have written a complimentary piece called the Road Map which deals with meeting with the bully and dealing with his issues on a feelings level.
The problem one encounters when dealing with dysfunctional emotional memories (leading to dysfunctional behaviours) is that change is slow
BUT it is the only way to affect change.

If you go to you will come upon the information- order page. The Canadian Dollar is about 82 cents US right now so the price is even better than it appears. Book price today is $33.58US, the Road Map is $16.35 together they are $46.65US

As to your last comment. Bullying is without doubt the most misunderstood and misinterpreted behaviour that frequents our work places, families and communities. I just had a retired University President comment about the amount of bullying that goes on between faculty and between faculty and students particularly graduate students.

I believe very strongly that the
basis of all bullying is fear. For children and adolescents the fear is that they will not attain status. For adults the fear is that they will lose status. It is sad in the brain development arena which is our education system that there people who are bullies. In the The Bully Around the Corner book there is a section on Adult Bullies in the School. I wasn't going to put this in the book but when giving seminars and workshops the participants kept raising the issue.

Adult bullies in the workplace are at best tolerated, most often feared and are, almost to a person , the most incompetent, most inflexible and most destructive people in the system. They are however not without guile and know exactly how to finesse their way into the thinking of senior administration.
If you are willing to put your ego on hold and are able to bite your tongue there are some things you can try for the benefit of your students.
* Don't pressure her.
* Create scenarios which she can accept and run with, as her ideas.
* Try not to get yourself isolated. Such bullies are good at dividing and conquering.
* Try to get her dependent upon you, such as having her take a leadership/speaker role on some thing that only you have the expertise.
* Be her friend. Say Mildred I know you are really swamped with XYZ , could I help you there or with the ABC program that is vital to the Superintendent is promoting. Means more work for you but it also may allow you to get some of the things, you need to have, done.
* You can pray for certain things to happen. A new administrator may see through her and take administrative action, her husband will get transferred, she will retire, a university will believe her resume and take her on staff. I had an senior administrator who saw through my bully boss and had him transferred.
* Don't be afraid of being creative. These are not rational folk so there fore do not spend all your time thinking rationally.

I hope this info helps. Please write or contact me again. David Halstead, MEd.

Tuesday, November 25, 2008

The Joys of being a Grandparent.

Yesterday I called my daughter and my 2 year & three week old grandson got to the phone first.
He picked up the receiver and murmured "awoo" When I said Hi, N... he turned to his mother and yelled "Its Nanny".
The joy, wonder and delight in his voice transformed what had been a rotten day into one filled with sunshine - even though it was 7.30pm and pitch dark.

Thursday, September 4, 2008

September Brain Facts Blog

For everyone in the Northern Hemisphere - Welcome to a new school year. (For our readers in the Southern Hemisphere I imagine you are starting the countdown to the end of your school year.)
Hope everyone's summer was great - not that the weather was anywhere it seems.

We had a wonderful event in August, a darling new granddaughter! Melissa, Born August 19th., (the day after my birthday) weighing 7lbs 14ozs and 19inches long, to our daughter and son in law, a sister for Nathaniel. Of course she is absolutely beautiful, sleep & eats and that's pretty much it.
We are still trying to recover from the excitement.

A reminder - our Back to School 2 for 1 sale ends Sept 30th 2008. Don't miss this special offer.
Visit our web site for full details.

If any reader has recommended the ezine to someone and that person signed up (I've been getting lots of sign ups lately), please let me know - your name and the name of the person who signed up. Under BPLG's Special Affiliate programme you have qualified for a special reward.
If you recommend any of our books, Bully Profiles, or the Brainclopedia to a colleague and they purchase any of these products you will receive 30% of the purchase price. This also applies to bulk purchases.
All for now,
Peggy Halstead,
Brain Power Learning Group.

Monday, July 14, 2008

Brain Facts Blog

Hi, Everybody,

First, many apologize for not sending you a Brain Facts Ezine in June. A combination of jet lag after returning from the UK and a touch of pneumonia all conspired in the delay. (The holiday was great by the way). But things are getting back to normal and the next issue should arrive this week. We are hoping to resume sending the ezine twice a month in July - but no promises.

Thanks to everyone who sent change of address notices to me - a great help!


BPLG is starting an affiliate programme and invite you to become an


The way this will work is very simple, if you, as an Ezine subscriber, recommends the Ezine to a friend or colleague and that person signs up and verifies their subscription BPLG will give you a FREE 20 minute consultation with David Halstead, "The Brain Guy".
You won't even have to pay long distance phone charges, we are using Skype for these calls. Its working very well and since the calls are made using your computer and speakers its all free. Even the Skype download is free.

And there's even more - if you have purchased one of our books and a friend or colleague buys a book on your recommendation BPLG will send you a cheque for 30% of the purchase price of the book. The same offer applies if your school or school district places a bulk order for one of our books on your recommendation. BPLG will send you a cheque for 30% of the total purchase price!

(Please note:- Bulk orders start at 10+ copies.) Contact for more details.

Till the next post,
Peggy Halstead,
Brain Power Learning Group

Thursday, May 15, 2008

Brain Facts Blog

Hi, Everyone,

Some news about the ezine's summer schedule.
There will be one ezine in June 08, arriving in the last week of the month.
This is due to our laziness - we are taking a few days off.
Normal service will resume in July (twice a month).

Now a little bit of news about email service in the Northern
Hemisphere. Many School Districts close down their email
service over the summer. So if you don't get the ezine during the
summer let me know.

Also, even worse. I've noticed that a few School district employees
like to "tidy up" the emails that arrive at their SD server and to
unsubscribe people from all newsletters/ezines etc., without their permission or knowledge.
I always send a confirmation email about unsubscribed names
so if you get one of these notices contact me if you didn't
unsubscribe and want to continue receiving the ezine.

Thanks to the many readers who have sent in change of address notices
I really appreciate your help and support

The two for one book sale will continue until the end of the school year
(June 2008) so will our Workshop Sale! The first nine School Districts/Schools that
book a one or Two day workshop (to take place in the 2008/09 school year) with us before the end of the school year will receive a whopping 25% off our already low fees (Deposit required). Bookings are coming in so act NOW to make sure you don't miss out.

Also, any School District or School who contacts BPLG to inquire about this offer
will receive a free Special Report.

We have some exciting plans for the 2008/09 school year which we will launch in September.
Some ideas we have include individual consultations with The Brain Guy, by phone or email,
starting our long promised Teleclasses and starting a MasterBrain circle. Numbers for this would be strictly limited, probably 10 to 12 people (ezine subscribers only) and would be a phone in group held once a week.
Details to be worked out, but we are taking names for the Circle. So if you are interested email me and I will put you on the list.

All the best, see you in June.

Peggy Halstead
Brain Power Learning Group.